Today I am sharing points made in a book I'm reading, High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard. The chapter Demonstrate Courage, subchapter Honor the Struggle. If I could type out the entire chapter for you I would. Instead I will share some of the sections I highlighted. I am going to bullet the highlights to make it easier to read. These are all straight from the book. My comments in ( )
- We're less courageous as a society today because we avoid struggle, and that decision leaves us with underdeveloped character and strength—two key ingredients for courage. (This is a bold statement and if it bothers you, there's probably a reason.)
- We're at a unique time in history, when more countries and communities have greater abundance than ever before. But in such blessings, there can be a curse—people can become resistant to struggle. Today, making any recommendations that would require real effort, trial, difficulty or patient persistence is out of fashion. Ease and convenience reign. People often quit marriages and school and jobs and friendships at the first sign of difficultly. If you quit at the first sign of difficulty in your everyday life, what are the odds you'll persist in the face of real fear or threat?
- ...We'll have to get better at dealing with life's basic challenges. We'll have to stop getting so annoyed and start seeing struggle as part of growing our character. We must learn to honor the struggle.
- In the general media world especially, every "tip" or "hack" is framed so that it's making life super easy, pulling us away from any pain or strain. Focus only on your strengths, becuase you'll feel better and serve better. No need to suffer through facing your shortcomings: that would be uncomfotable and not worth the effort. It goes on to say...If we keep telling people to do what's easy, why would they ever think to do what's hard? (The easy is not what shapes us into our true self).
- We're surrounded by memes and media and influences telling us we're not supposed to struggle, that life should just be an easy flow or we're on the wrong track. Imagine what that's doing to our abilities. Imagine what this is doing to our odds of ever taking courageous action.
- No one who achieved anything avoided struggle. They met it, engaged with it. They knew that it was necessary, because they knew that real challenge and hardship pushed them, extended their capabilities, made them rise. They learned to honor their struggle. (This is in reference to older generations before us working harder than anyone else would expect, striving for a dream with fierce tenacity even in the face of hardship.)
- Those who hate the struggle or fear it, end up complaining, losing motivation and quitting. When we learn to see struggle as a necessary, important and positive part of our journey, then we can find true peace and personal power.
My son is currently serving in the Army and one of the sayings they have in the military is Embrace the Suck. I'm sure he had to remind himself of that many times while he was in Afghanistan. You can't avoid it. You have to deal with it, face it, and will yourself to persevere and rise. There will always be struggle. We have two choices ~ ignore it or honor it. Ask yourself next time, which choice will bring you to your truth.