Recently I attended a seminar for health and wellness professionals. The subject of the hour, The Success Path. I was hesitant for several reasons, but mainly because of my past experience as a recruiter. In my career, it was all about making strides along the success path. It was mandatory! Always about MORE. Make more recruiting calls, make more marketing calls, get more orders, fill more jobs, make more $$. Repeat. The image I have of a success path was not a path at all. It was a revolving door of increased expectations that only got faster and faster, disguised as personal success.
So, as I listened to the facilitator talk about creating a success path for clients, the matter was about personal growth, so the client could see progress. Who doesn't want progress!? And for many, having a plan to see the steps you've taken can be very encouraging. I myself sometimes get lost in the process of what I'm doing that I don't see the progress I've made. Totally makes sense. However, I kept coming back to the path. It had a beginning and an end. As someone on their own healing journey, I questioned the end. If I'm at the end of my success path, does that mean I've got it all figured out? Nothing else to learn? I started to tune out and analyze the steps I've taken and the progress I've made. I'm grateful to have begun the journey and made in my mind, significant progress, but I'm nowhere near the end. As a matter of fact, I don't believe there is an end until I make my transition from this body.
Needless to say, my thoughts kept on going and at this point I was totally tuned out, doodling my path on my notes. Only, my path was not a straight line like the example given, it was a circle. My circle of self-discovery. In the circle I began to list the things I was working on. Acceptance. Clarity. Confidence. Fear. Doubt. Awakening. Motivation. Joy. Judgement. And so on. Then I started to think about other people and their path. And how I believe we never know someone else's path. We can have our perception, but we can not truly know. It's not ours to know. Just as you read these words, you will have a different perception or even reaction to them. I believe that we can sit down and talk about our path and the desires we have and support each other on the journey, but I'm convinced we cannot truly experience or know someone else's path. It is deep and personal.
My heartfelt theory is this. We have this idea in our minds that once we heal something or learn the lesson, we won't have to deal with that anymore and we get to move on. Thus making us an expert on said subject. The problem with this way of thinking is healing comes in levels. We learn the lesson. Pass the test. And advance to the next level. If we think we know it all, we'll be in for a big shock, when the same lesson shows up later and bigger! Our ego then goes into, same equals safe mode, keeping us small because we must not be able to learn the lesson, so why try. This is how fear works. Don't work through this. It will be too tough and you'll get hurt in the process. At least you know where you are now. You're comfortable there. This is how we stay stuck and small.
The journey, however, is about continued growth. We are not meant to stay stuck or small. We are meant to experience life. Knowing ourselves at a deep level. Loving ourselves completely, most especially the deep, dark corners that we hope we can keep hidden. So, I wondered, how on earth could a success path tell me how to do that? If I look at it from the perspective of an overachiever, put that goal in front of me and I'll make it happen, even if it doesn't feel right. But that's not healing at all. That's stress! On the other hand, if I come from a place of healing, I can see continual growth on the path no matter if it's a straight line, a circle or a stairway to heaven. From a healing perspective it is continual. From the screen of my mind, one healing moment is another layer released that uncovers my greatness at the heart level.
How do you like that? I said, MY GREATNESS! Can you say it? It's tough sometimes. In living on the outside, there was no room for my greatness. Only room for people pleasing, appeasing, walking on eggshells and trying to make things perfect. This kept me small on the inside. LISTEN UP! God did not create me or you to be small. We are created to be great! To show up everyday as our best self. We don't have to suppress our truth to be of service to others. This is not coming from a place of conceit. Quite the opposite. Showing up as God sees us, in our greatness everyday no matter our path, circle or staircase, is exactly how we are meant to serve. Our greatness is asking and believing we are strong enough to follow God's plan for us and to live in our greatness ~ our true self!