With permission I'll share a brief snippet. One of my private clients is going through a major change in her career in order to be more available to her kids as they meet some challenges in life. This is a huge step from being in an executive role to letting go of that part of her identity. While she is very excited for this new season, there is still part of her that has a picture in her mind that this is not what life should look like. And it's all based on the perception of what others will think. Haven't we all been there? Not only do we create the opinions of others in our mind, but sometimes we actually hear them out loud and it just add fuel to the fire. The other day I was reading a post on instagram that was quite funny but also very telling. It was a back and forth rant of a mom about back to school night. She, just trying to herd her 4 kids through the process, noticed some of the moms perfectly quaffed with the latest trendy clothes walking their perfect kids into the classrooms with back to school gifts for the teachers and she just couldn't help but feel like she was failing. She had barely gotten her hair brushed into a ponytail for the day and she was in her yoga pants with a jacket tied around her waist. But then she took a step back and noticed her judgement and thought, those women are probably exceptional moms just like I am and who am I to judge how someone shows up in life. She didn't want to be judged for how she looked so she shouldn't judge how they look. And so it goes. Had she not stopped to take a moment to step off her box, that image would have played over and over in her mind of how things should look. Anytime we are living or showing up in life to someone else's picture of expectations we are living in our false self.
I often say to people who ask me about my yoga classes, "I want you to forget what you think you know about yoga." My desire in saying this is to assure people that I can help them find a practice that is suitable to their needs, both physical and emotional. I want them to let go of the picture in their mind that it has to look a certain way. But here's the kicker! I wasn't following my own advice. I was doing my best to create classes that were accessible and valuable, but I was falling into the mold of how everyone else was doing it just so I could pay the bills. It didn't matter if I was teaching 8 classes a week or 13, I was hustling to keep the people I had and hopefully attracting more. Doing all the "things" to keep going, ending up tired and with more month at the end of my money. I kept thinking, "what's wrong with this picture?" Well, God spoke and told me exactly what's wrong, I wasn't following my heart or his guidance. But in my mind I couldn't get past the idea that the only way I could share my passion for healing through yoga and meditation was with a regular schedule of group classes. But when God spoke again and again, I finally got the message. Why does it have to look this way? If I truly believe that I can help people and that I'm teaching in a different way, then why would it look anything like "the norm"? And so here I am at another season of change and growth and the doors are opening one after another.
So my message in all of this, is forget what you think things should look like. Whether it's in your marriage, your job, your yoga practice, your relationship with God, let go of the false parameters that this world creates and live guided by Spirit. It is only in that moment that you will see clearly.
Take the Journey ~ Trust the Journey ~ Be the Journey