I am writing this for my own benefit just as I hope it inspires someone else to take the first step. I don’t have it all figured out. It’s messy! And if you like things to happen in an organized fashion, this will drive you crazy!
It is important to have a dream and a grand picture in your mind, but it’s even more important to have a few touch-points to focus on through the process of sharing your gift. Throughout my journey, I’ve journaled about the ups and downs of the process and want to share a few points with you that have been helpful for me to revisit again and again and again…
#1 Live from the place of sharing your gift. Be in the mindset of, “Does what I am about to do stay true to my vision for sharing my gift?” This seems easy enough. But if you are someone that is trying to make everyone else happy in the process, it’s more difficult than it seems. Ask this question in every decision or choice. When I don’t ask this question, I make decisions that take me off course. Those choices may be easier, but they aren’t from my heart and are not authentic.
#2 Get rid of the “yeah buts”. It is very easy to make excuses and create obstacles. This is your test! How much do you believe in your gift? If saying “yeah but…” feels more natural to you, then you’ve probably been blocking yourself for a long time. Maybe it’s time to find out why. Somewhere, you are “tucking your fringe”. This has all been a process for me. Here are some of my “yeah buts”
Does what I am about to do stay true to my purpose and vision for sharing my gift?
Yeah but –
THIS person might not like it.
I might make THIS person upset.
What if it doesn’t work and I fail?
You get the picture. Like I said, it’s messy!
#3. Surround yourself with a true support system. In my experience this should be someone neutral who has nothing to gain from you sharing your gift. Someone that knows you deep down, knows your truth and doesn’t judge you for your vulnerability or insecurities. There will be a lot of people who want to jump on board and give you “well-meaning advice”. Make sure you stick with point #1 when making decisions. You are here to share your gift and live your light. You cannot be all things to all people! Believe me, I learned the hard way and I’m still learning. Stand up for yourself and stand strong, but lean on those who will have your back on the playground when the enemy shows up!
#4 My last touchpoint would be to nourish yourself every day in every way! Find your self-care routine and stick to it!!! This is a must and the other three points will absolutely not work if you do not honor yourself. If you are sharing your gift, then more than likely you are one to take care of others first. It’s time to get a little selfish! Even as I write this, I struggle with it daily! But I know firsthand you truly cannot serve from an empty vessel. You must take time to disconnect, shut down and reboot. And it must be a routine! Find what energizes you and take time to enjoy it every day. No “yeah buts”. Schedule it and find someone to hold you accountable! I am very adamant about this because, I’ve made the mistake of not focusing on my own self-care routine and everything else fell off course. Not only did I lose energy, but it opened up the door for the gremlin brothers doubt and fear to take over!
Even the smallest spark is a spark and my hope is this sparked your light. My journey is life long and I don’t have all the answers, but I am ready to share with you, even the messiness! #tuckthefringe