Living our purpose is our Divine right. I will go one step further to say that we are held responsible for our lives and what we do with them. It's our choice. Why, then, are so many of us hiding our gift? Why is it that we would rather be unhappy in a career or situation than work hard for something that feels totally natural? There could be a million answers to those questions, but here are a few that I would like to share from my experiences.
1. Same Equals Safe ~
It is scary to take risk. For many, too scary. We've grown so used to the patterns of Tucking the Fringe, rolling ourselves up to "FIT", that we've lost the ability to feel! We've lived for so long in the discomfort that it feels comfortable. The bully in our mind will convince us that even though the way we are living now, might not be the best, it is what we know so we are comfortable. So we put our head down and pretend.
WAKE UP!!!! If I could yell at you right now I would! Would you rather live a life of discomfort just because it's what you know and are used to, or would you rather WAKE UP and maybe feel a moment of discomfort and a whole hell of a lot of joy, through courage. Don't deny your truth, get messy with it! Use it! Live it! It's your story, write it! Don't go back to sleep!
2. Comparison ~
STOP stalking the competition! This might surprise you, but comparison is the enemy. I'm not saying that we shouldn't learn from others about what has worked and not worked when it comes to sharing our gift and pursuing our dreams. The thing is, we start to compare and it becomes very easy for the mind bully to take over and make us believe that if we're not doing it like they are, we must be doing it wrong. Let me give you an example. When I first began my teacher training, I was introduced to a whole new world of yoga. Up to that point, I was in a box where everything looked the same. As I went through my training, my own gift began to emerge. I found what resonated with me. Unfortunately, when I began teaching, I was playing this Jekyll and Hyde game with myself. When I taught for myself, I felt completely natural, but when I taught for someone else, I felt like I had to be like them and fit in the box. That in itself was comparing and it felt so unnatural. I felt like I was suffocating in more ways than one. My mind bully would tell me, "look if you want to be successful you have to "teach" this way. I can honestly say, I almost gave up on my dream because of it.
STOP comparing! It is perfectly great to work with others who have knowledge and wisdom to share, but avoid getting wrapped up in "how" they did it. Learn about yourself through the process of sharing your gifts. Make your mantra, "Is what I'm about to do bringing me closer to my dreams and desires?" "Is what I'm about to do sharing my gift in an authentic way?" If the answer is NO, then move on.
3. Lack of Planning ~
I'm all about setting intentions! I believe in the power of the mind and our thoughts will attract to us. However, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say, intentions are not goals! Don't get me wrong, I love setting intentions. I set an intention before every yoga practice to move forward with grace and ease and to be open to every part of the practice. This, in my opinion, is not a goal. In order to truly pursue your desires and share your gift, there must be clear, concise and measurable goals. Maybe this comes from my background in corporate sales, but it works.
When I first began my business, I set all these intentions. They were nice and if I'm being honest, just fluff. My dilemma was that I didn't think the business mindset fit with the zen mindset of a yoga teacher. I should just believe and receive! Right? WRONG!!!! If you have a desire in your heart that is so strong you spend every waking and sleeping moment thinking about it, it deserves your action, not just your intentions. It deserves a plan and a set of goals that are measurable and time sensitive. If you are not familiar with how to even begin, this would definitely be where I would suggest support (without comparison). And, I might add, a kickass planner where you can write your goals, expectations, objectives and outcomes!
Fear is the number one reason that so many will NEVER pursue their dreams! Fear of failure, fear of looking ridiculous and fear of what other people will think and say about you. Fear gets us nowhere, except back to same equals safe, Tucking the Fringe. There will be critics, even mean spirited ones. And if you're a co-dependent, eggshell walking, people pleaser like me, fear can feel like the end.
Power through! I don't have the magic formula because I still run into fear and doubt. I'm human! I let myself feel it and I learn from it. Where is it coming from and why? I look at it as the next lesson I'm supposed to learn. Believe me I've learned a lot of lessons!!!! Still learning. I've learned that what others think or even say about me, has nothing to do with me, but has to do with their own life patterns. I've learned that I can push through fear, by doing. And I've learned that owning my journey and sticking to my daily ritual keeps me grounded and moving forward.
5. Lack of Consistency
Finally, as with anything, consistency is the key! I tell my students, all the time, that Yoga is a practice that is cumulative and consistency is the key. We must let go of the I want it now or I don't want it at all. Our gift must be cultivated, nurtured and given the opportunity to grow. If we truly want to live our purpose and share our gifts, we must consistently Take Risks, Stop Comparing, Plan and Set Goals, and learn to let go of FEAR. And always, keep the faith. God didn't bring you this far to let you fall.
As always, I'm here to cheer you on and support you!