Part of my dharma (purpose) is sharing my gift and living my truth in an authentic way. I will write it and I will speak it. These words are actually part of my daily prayer. I do not know why or how they came to me, but when I wrote them, they flowed from somewhere deep. Some days I struggle with these words because I come from a long line of suck it up and hold it in. And that's exactly what I did for over 40 years, hold it in. I believe I'm fortunate to have had moments of clarity showing me how to release because many never do. But does telling the same story over and over again make us sound like victims? I do believe there are those times when we share our stories because we want sympathy or we want to show how someone did us wrong. However, there is a reason why these stories continue to press at our heart. There is always a lesson.
Our stories are an important part of our self discovery and the repeat stories we share are the ones that have the most meaning. And quite possibly bring the most opportunities to heal what is hurting. Whether truth or somewhat myth, telling our stories is healing. We tell them so we can understand them. You might have listened to someone retell a story of loss over and over and thought to yourself, "She is not going to get through this if she keeps reliving the story." Isn't it quite possible that each time the story is told that person moves closer to the truth. An awakening.
Brené Brown says, "You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness." I can say from experience hustling is very tiring. When I let go of hustling for my worthiness based on others perceptions and expectations, I started to own my story. The interesting part of it for me is that is my story. So the line is very thin. Am I telling my story of people pleasing and co-dependency or am I still living it. Or both? Some days the lines are blurred. But I come back again to my dharma. To share my gift and live my truth in an authentic way. I can share my story without going backwards to old patterns, but with the intention to heal myself and serve others. My friend, who is in AA, says it comes from a place of "why". Why do we share our experience, strength and hope. We are not to fix anyone and it is a daily practice to come from a place of service and not EGO.
I've written before about writing a new chapter. This is true, but it doesn't mean that we let go of our story, we just don't let it own us. It can be part of who we are without keeping us stuck in it. So share your story to heal and inspire and with each telling notice how you see more clearly. Let your story shine your light!